जाता जाता एकदा तरी बोलून जा
जाता जाता एकदा तरी , बोलून जा ...
माझ्या नजरेच्या प्रश्नाला उत्तर देवून जा
तुझा चेहरा असा अबोल नसावा
कदाचित, त्याचा अर्थ वेगळाच निघेल
जर माझ काही चुकल असेल
तर, तू प्रेमान माफ करत जा
कडू आंबट अनुभव मनात राहतात
तरी , त्यांना प्रेमान उजाळा देत जा
मनाच्या अबोल भिंतीआड
अशी गप्पा राहू नको , माझ्यासाठी
तरी, तू बोलत जा ..
जाता जाता तुला शपथ देतो प्रेमाची
तू नेहमी हसताना दिसायला हवीस
तू तुझे दुख: खुशाल मला देवून जा
जाता जाता एकदा तरी बोलून जा
मनोज गोबे
Sunday, September 26, 2010
खरच तू प्रत्यक्षात एकदा तरी येयून जा
खरच तू प्रत्यक्षात एकदा तरी येयून जा
तुझा ध्यास तुझी आस
स्वप्नात पाहतो तुला तासन तास
तरसालेल्या नजरेला अस्तित्वाची
साथ देवून जा , खरच तू प्रत्यक्षात एकदा तरी येयून जा
एकदा डोळ्यातील अश्रू पापाण्यातून
धावला र्ह्दयाचा कंठ आज दाटुनी आला
अश्रुनी आज माझी व्यथा सांगत आहे
येतेस कधी आता तुझी वाट पाहत आहे
अंत आता संपला माझ्या अंतरीचा
हेवा वाटत आहे
आता तुझ्यावीण जगण्याचा
जगण्यासाठी मला एवडे तरी करून जा
तुझा आठवणीचा ठेवा मला देवून जा
खरच तू प्रत्यक्षात एकदा तरी येयून जा
मनोज गोबे
तुझा ध्यास तुझी आस
स्वप्नात पाहतो तुला तासन तास
तरसालेल्या नजरेला अस्तित्वाची
साथ देवून जा , खरच तू प्रत्यक्षात एकदा तरी येयून जा
एकदा डोळ्यातील अश्रू पापाण्यातून
धावला र्ह्दयाचा कंठ आज दाटुनी आला
अश्रुनी आज माझी व्यथा सांगत आहे
येतेस कधी आता तुझी वाट पाहत आहे
अंत आता संपला माझ्या अंतरीचा
हेवा वाटत आहे
आता तुझ्यावीण जगण्याचा
जगण्यासाठी मला एवडे तरी करून जा
तुझा आठवणीचा ठेवा मला देवून जा
खरच तू प्रत्यक्षात एकदा तरी येयून जा
मनोज गोबे
तुझ्या आठवणी
तुझ्या आठवणी
तुझ्या आठवणीच्या करतो मी आता साठवणी
गेले ते दिवस आता राहिल्या फक्त आठवणी
मनाच्या कोपऱ्यात तुझ्या आठवणीचाच साठा
माझ्या क्षणा क्षणात आहे त्यांच्याच खूप वाटा
तिरव आठवणी ना शब्दच आठवत नाही
सर्व आठवणी व्यक्त होतच नाही
अव्यक्त आठवणी राहतात मनाच्या आत
त्याच खर्या देतात जीवनाची साथ
अविस्मरणीय अन पुन्हा पुन्हा आठवतात
जीवन जगण्याची मजला तेच वाट दाखवतात .
मनोज गोबे
तुझ्या आठवणीच्या करतो मी आता साठवणी
गेले ते दिवस आता राहिल्या फक्त आठवणी
मनाच्या कोपऱ्यात तुझ्या आठवणीचाच साठा
माझ्या क्षणा क्षणात आहे त्यांच्याच खूप वाटा
तिरव आठवणी ना शब्दच आठवत नाही
सर्व आठवणी व्यक्त होतच नाही
अव्यक्त आठवणी राहतात मनाच्या आत
त्याच खर्या देतात जीवनाची साथ
अविस्मरणीय अन पुन्हा पुन्हा आठवतात
जीवन जगण्याची मजला तेच वाट दाखवतात .
मनोज गोबे
वळणावर... तुझाच एक ...
वळणावर
वळणावरून वळताना
मागे वळून पाहू नकोस
गालात उगीचच हसू नकोस
गालात हसताना पापण्या अलगद मिटू नकोस
धुंद गहिऱ्या डोळ्यात
माझे स्वप्न पाहू नकोस
आणि स्वप्नात बोलावले तरीही
तू माझा होशील का ?
हा प्रश्न विचारू नकोस
का ? ते विचारू नकोस
उत्तर कधीही मागू नकोस
म्हणूनच ..
माझ्या आयुष्याच्या वळणावर
पुन्हा कधी येऊ नकोस
आणि आलीस तरीही भूतकाळात पाहू नकोस
तुझाच एक ...
मनोज गोबे
वळणावरून वळताना
मागे वळून पाहू नकोस
गालात उगीचच हसू नकोस
गालात हसताना पापण्या अलगद मिटू नकोस
धुंद गहिऱ्या डोळ्यात
माझे स्वप्न पाहू नकोस
आणि स्वप्नात बोलावले तरीही
तू माझा होशील का ?
हा प्रश्न विचारू नकोस
का ? ते विचारू नकोस
उत्तर कधीही मागू नकोस
म्हणूनच ..
माझ्या आयुष्याच्या वळणावर
पुन्हा कधी येऊ नकोस
आणि आलीस तरीही भूतकाळात पाहू नकोस
तुझाच एक ...
मनोज गोबे
Saturday, September 25, 2010
मासूम चेहरा
मासूम चेहरा
मासूम चेहरा , निगाहे फरेबी
लबो पे हंसी और दिल में दगा है
मिले दोस्त जिसको यहाँ तेरे जैसा
उसे दुश्मनों की जरुरत क्या है !
दिल तोड़ दिया , क्यों इतना बता दे
फिर बाद मै बेवफा जो चाहे मुझको सजा दे
तेरे बेरुखिसे परेशान हु में न आये
समज में ये क्या मंजर है !
जो भरता नहीं वो जख्म दिया है
मुझको नहीं प्यार को बदनाम तुने किया है
जिसे मैंने पूजा मसीहा बनाके
न था ये पता पथारोंका बना है !
मासूम चेहरा , निगाहे फरेबी
लबो पे हंसी और दिल में दगा है
मिले दोस्त जिसको यहाँ तेरे जैसा
उसे दुश्मनों की जरुरत क्या है !
दिल तोड़ दिया , क्यों इतना बता दे
फिर बाद मै बेवफा जो चाहे मुझको सजा दे
तेरे बेरुखिसे परेशान हु में न आये
समज में ये क्या मंजर है !
जो भरता नहीं वो जख्म दिया है
मुझको नहीं प्यार को बदनाम तुने किया है
जिसे मैंने पूजा मसीहा बनाके
न था ये पता पथारोंका बना है !
तू जो नहीं है तो
तू जो नहीं है तो
तू जो नहीं है, तो कुछ भी नहीं, ये माना की
महफ़िल , जिन्दगी जवान हसीन है !
मुझे फिर तबाह कर, मुझे फिर रुला जा ,
सितम करनेवाली कही से तू आजा ,
आँखों मै तेरी ही सूरत बसी है !
तेरी तरह तेरा गम भी हसीन है !
समझ मै न आये ये क्या माजरा है ,
तुझे पाके दिल में ये खाली सा क्या है ,
तू हर वक़्त मिलने, कोई बेकली है
क्यों हरक़त सिने में रहती कमी है !
जिदर भी ये देखे , जाये भी ये जाये ,
तुझे धुंडती है , ये पागल निगाहे ,
मै जिन्दा हु लेकिन कहा जिन्दगी है
मेरी जिन्दगी तू कहा खो गयी है !
तू जो नहीं है, तो कुछ भी नहीं, ये माना की
महफ़िल , जिन्दगी जवान हसीन है !
मुझे फिर तबाह कर, मुझे फिर रुला जा ,
सितम करनेवाली कही से तू आजा ,
आँखों मै तेरी ही सूरत बसी है !
तेरी तरह तेरा गम भी हसीन है !
समझ मै न आये ये क्या माजरा है ,
तुझे पाके दिल में ये खाली सा क्या है ,
तू हर वक़्त मिलने, कोई बेकली है
क्यों हरक़त सिने में रहती कमी है !
जिदर भी ये देखे , जाये भी ये जाये ,
तुझे धुंडती है , ये पागल निगाहे ,
मै जिन्दा हु लेकिन कहा जिन्दगी है
मेरी जिन्दगी तू कहा खो गयी है !
बिन तेरे क्या जीना
बिन तेरे क्या जीना
बिन तेरे क्या है जीना , मेरी दिल की रानी तुम,
मेरी खुशबू का मौसम, मेरे ख्वाबो की तावीर,
मेरी सपनों की तस्वीर , बिन तेरे कैसी यार,
वो जित वो हार , तेरे संग है सबकुछ, तू ना हो तो बेकार
सुनी खाली रातें, रूखे - फीकी बाते,
हर आहट पे चोंकू तुझको हर सु देखू ,
तुझको हरदम सोंचू ,तुझको हरपाल चाहू,
तेरे बिन तो जीवन मेरा हे इन्तेजार ..
तेरे साथ जिए जो पल, कुछ तुमसे नहीं बढ़कर,
तेरी खातिर साँस मै लू , तेरी खातिर जीता हु ,
तू है जीने की वजह , कर मेरा ऐतबार ...
बिन तेरे क्या है जीना , मेरी दिल की रानी तुम,
मेरी खुशबू का मौसम, मेरे ख्वाबो की तावीर,
मेरी सपनों की तस्वीर , बिन तेरे कैसी यार,
वो जित वो हार , तेरे संग है सबकुछ, तू ना हो तो बेकार
सुनी खाली रातें, रूखे - फीकी बाते,
हर आहट पे चोंकू तुझको हर सु देखू ,
तुझको हरदम सोंचू ,तुझको हरपाल चाहू,
तेरे बिन तो जीवन मेरा हे इन्तेजार ..
तेरे साथ जिए जो पल, कुछ तुमसे नहीं बढ़कर,
तेरी खातिर साँस मै लू , तेरी खातिर जीता हु ,
तू है जीने की वजह , कर मेरा ऐतबार ...
Thursday, September 23, 2010
प्रेम - भावनांचा खेळ ?
प्रेम - भावनांचा खेळ ?
प्रेम हा मुगजळ रुपी भावनांचा खेळ
नाही बसत त्याचा जीवनाशी मेळ
कळत नकळत जर पडलात 'च' प्रेमात
तर फसवू नका कोणाला आश्वासनांत
प्रेम प्रेम नुसते म्हणायचे नसते
तर ते टिकवायचेही असते
प्रेमात नुसत्या आणा-भाका खायच्या नसतात
तर त्या सत्यात उतरवायच्या असतात
प्रेमात चंद्र सूर्याची अतिशयोक्ती करायची नसते
तर प्रेमात भावनांची कदर करायची असते
असू नये प्रेमात फक्त स्वप्नांचे मैदान
तर असावे वास्तवतेचे भान
प्रेम हा काही खेळ नाही
दुसर्याच्या भावना दुखवायच्या
आपल्याला असा हक्क नाही
- मनोज गोबे
प्रेम हा मुगजळ रुपी भावनांचा खेळ
नाही बसत त्याचा जीवनाशी मेळ
कळत नकळत जर पडलात 'च' प्रेमात
तर फसवू नका कोणाला आश्वासनांत
प्रेम प्रेम नुसते म्हणायचे नसते
तर ते टिकवायचेही असते
प्रेमात नुसत्या आणा-भाका खायच्या नसतात
तर त्या सत्यात उतरवायच्या असतात
प्रेमात चंद्र सूर्याची अतिशयोक्ती करायची नसते
तर प्रेमात भावनांची कदर करायची असते
असू नये प्रेमात फक्त स्वप्नांचे मैदान
तर असावे वास्तवतेचे भान
प्रेम हा काही खेळ नाही
दुसर्याच्या भावना दुखवायच्या
आपल्याला असा हक्क नाही
- मनोज गोबे
आज कि पिढी
बहुत अजीब हे आज की पीढ़ी
मुंह में गुटखा हात में बीडी
सुन्दरियों के तन से कपडे हो रहे कम
इस बात का नहीं उन्हें गम
क्योंकि चढ़ रही वो इक्कीसवी सदी की सीडी
बहुत अजीब हे आज की पीडी
नई पीडी की हलक खस्ता हें
उनके लिए दूध महंगा दारू सस्ता हे
बियर-बार हॉउस फूल रहते हे
ये बात बोतल और जाम कहते हे
एस पीडी में किसी का स्वभाव शांत तो
कोई चिडचिडी हे बहुत अजीब हे आजकी पीडी
आज की पीडी का शब्द हेलो हाय
सुन्दरियों ना जाने कितने फ्रेंड हे बॉय
दूसरा मिल जय तो
पहले को बाय बाय
उन सुन्दरियों के लिए दोस्तों में
कितनी जंग छिड़ी
बहुत अजीब हे आज की पीडी
मुहमे गुटखा हात में बीडी
मनोज गोबे
मुंह में गुटखा हात में बीडी
सुन्दरियों के तन से कपडे हो रहे कम
इस बात का नहीं उन्हें गम
क्योंकि चढ़ रही वो इक्कीसवी सदी की सीडी
बहुत अजीब हे आज की पीडी
नई पीडी की हलक खस्ता हें
उनके लिए दूध महंगा दारू सस्ता हे
बियर-बार हॉउस फूल रहते हे
ये बात बोतल और जाम कहते हे
एस पीडी में किसी का स्वभाव शांत तो
कोई चिडचिडी हे बहुत अजीब हे आजकी पीडी
आज की पीडी का शब्द हेलो हाय
सुन्दरियों ना जाने कितने फ्रेंड हे बॉय
दूसरा मिल जय तो
पहले को बाय बाय
उन सुन्दरियों के लिए दोस्तों में
कितनी जंग छिड़ी
बहुत अजीब हे आज की पीडी
मुहमे गुटखा हात में बीडी
मनोज गोबे
सांग तू साथ देशील ना मला
सांग तू साथ देशील ना मला
ह्या ओसाडलेल्या माळरानावर
आपल्या प्रेमाची बाग फुलवायची आहे मला
उद्याची हिरवी स्वप्नं साकारताना
तुझ्या हिंमतीची जोड हवी मला
ह्या गवताच्या झोपडीत
मोडका संसार थाटायचा आहे मला
माझ्या खांद्याला खांदा देशील
याची यास आहे मला
निष्पाप मनाच्या घरट्याला, तुझ्या
प्रेमाच्या फांदीचा आधार हवाय मला
थकून आलेल्या जीवाला तुझ्या मायेच्या
सावलीत निवारा हवाय मला
कष्टाच्या चाकोरीतून जाताना
दु:खाचे चटके सोसावे लागणार
आयुष्याचा गाडा ओढताना खाचखळग्यातून
जाव लागणार आहे तुला
मला अभिमान आहे तुझ्या कर्तुत्वाचा
दु:खात असताना हि आनंदी राहायचा, जर
नाहीच पेलवला ह ओझ तरी चालेल मला पण
तुझा सहवास हवाय आयुष्य भरासाठी मला
सांग तू साथ देशील ना मला
- मनोज गोबे
ह्या ओसाडलेल्या माळरानावर
आपल्या प्रेमाची बाग फुलवायची आहे मला
उद्याची हिरवी स्वप्नं साकारताना
तुझ्या हिंमतीची जोड हवी मला
ह्या गवताच्या झोपडीत
मोडका संसार थाटायचा आहे मला
माझ्या खांद्याला खांदा देशील
याची यास आहे मला
निष्पाप मनाच्या घरट्याला, तुझ्या
प्रेमाच्या फांदीचा आधार हवाय मला
थकून आलेल्या जीवाला तुझ्या मायेच्या
सावलीत निवारा हवाय मला
कष्टाच्या चाकोरीतून जाताना
दु:खाचे चटके सोसावे लागणार
आयुष्याचा गाडा ओढताना खाचखळग्यातून
जाव लागणार आहे तुला
मला अभिमान आहे तुझ्या कर्तुत्वाचा
दु:खात असताना हि आनंदी राहायचा, जर
नाहीच पेलवला ह ओझ तरी चालेल मला पण
तुझा सहवास हवाय आयुष्य भरासाठी मला
सांग तू साथ देशील ना मला
- मनोज गोबे
एक थेंब माझ्या आटवणीतला
एक थेंब माझ्या आटवणीतला
एक थेंब पडावा एका वाळल्या रानामाधी
तुझी माझी भेट व्हावी एका ओल्या पावसामधी
एका थेंबाने पान सरसरावी
माझ्या स्पर्शाने तुझी नजर खाली जावी
ते लाजणे खुदकन हसणे
तुझी ती नाजूक छबी मनी भरावी
एका थेंबाने नवीन पालवी फुटावी
तू नाही म्हणता म्हणता माझ्या मिटीत यावी
त्या चिंब भिजलेल्या उबदार मिटीत गाणी म्हणावी
त्यातली एखादी ओळ मला समजवावी
एका थेंबाने एखादी काळी ती फुलावी
जणू एखाद्या गर्दीत आपली नजर भेट व्हावी
तुझं हसण तुझी गालावरची खळी
त्या पावसात तू स्वप्नातल्या परीसारखी दिसावी
हि तर सादी स्वप्नाची कहाणी
तुला एकदा भिजताना पहावी
तुला एकदा मिटीत घ्यावी
तेवढ्या पावसापुरती तरी तू माझी असावी
- मनोज गोबे
एक थेंब पडावा एका वाळल्या रानामाधी
तुझी माझी भेट व्हावी एका ओल्या पावसामधी
एका थेंबाने पान सरसरावी
माझ्या स्पर्शाने तुझी नजर खाली जावी
ते लाजणे खुदकन हसणे
तुझी ती नाजूक छबी मनी भरावी
एका थेंबाने नवीन पालवी फुटावी
तू नाही म्हणता म्हणता माझ्या मिटीत यावी
त्या चिंब भिजलेल्या उबदार मिटीत गाणी म्हणावी
त्यातली एखादी ओळ मला समजवावी
एका थेंबाने एखादी काळी ती फुलावी
जणू एखाद्या गर्दीत आपली नजर भेट व्हावी
तुझं हसण तुझी गालावरची खळी
त्या पावसात तू स्वप्नातल्या परीसारखी दिसावी
हि तर सादी स्वप्नाची कहाणी
तुला एकदा भिजताना पहावी
तुला एकदा मिटीत घ्यावी
तेवढ्या पावसापुरती तरी तू माझी असावी
- मनोज गोबे
शब्दाचे नाते
शब्दाचे नाते
नाते शब्दाचे नि माझे अतूट आहे
सुख असो व दु:ख , आमची सदा एकजूट आहे
मी जेव्हा दु:खी होतो , तेव्हा शब्द मला साद देतात
दु:खी या नीरस मनाला आनंदाचा आस्वाद देतात
एक एक शब्द माझ्या , जीवनानात अर्थ आणत असतो
शब्दामुळे जीवन शब्दामुळे जगण्यात अर्थ जाणवत असतो
शब्दामुळे एक क्षण काय सारे जीवन व्यर्थ आहे
शब्द माझी संपत्ती शब्द माझे जीवन
शब्दच महत्व जाणणार हे एका कवीच मन
- मनोज गोबे.
नाते शब्दाचे नि माझे अतूट आहे
सुख असो व दु:ख , आमची सदा एकजूट आहे
मी जेव्हा दु:खी होतो , तेव्हा शब्द मला साद देतात
दु:खी या नीरस मनाला आनंदाचा आस्वाद देतात
एक एक शब्द माझ्या , जीवनानात अर्थ आणत असतो
शब्दामुळे जीवन शब्दामुळे जगण्यात अर्थ जाणवत असतो
शब्दामुळे एक क्षण काय सारे जीवन व्यर्थ आहे
शब्द माझी संपत्ती शब्द माझे जीवन
शब्दच महत्व जाणणार हे एका कवीच मन
- मनोज गोबे.
Monday, September 20, 2010
कुछ कुछ होता है ......
संता और उसकी बीवी ने तलाक के लिए कोर्ट में अपील की
जजः तुम दोनों का तलाक हो जाएगा लेकिन बच्चों का बंटवारा कैसे होगा?
संताः जज साहब क्या परेशानी है?
जजः तुम्हारे तीन बच्चे हैं तो कैसे बांटोगे?
संताः तो फिर ठीक है जज साहब हम अगले साल अपील करेंगे...
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संता बंता सेः मैं चाहता हूं कि जब मैं मरुं तो अपने दादजी की तरह शांति से मरुं
बंताः उनकी मौत कैसे हुई?
संताः उनकी गाड़ी का जब एक्सीडेंट हुआ सभी मुसाफिर जोर-जोर से चीख रहे थे लेकिन मेरे दादाजी शांत थे
बंताः तब तुम्हारे दादाजी क्या कर रहे थे?
संताः वह ड्राइविंग सीट पर बैठे सो रहे थे......
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बंताः यार संता एक बात बता मनमोहन सिंह हमेशा शाम को ही टहलने क्यों जाते हैं, सुबह क्यों नहीं?
संताः क्योंकि वह पीएम हैं, एएम नहीं.....
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संता : चूहे को अगर बिल्ली से प्यार हो जाएगा , तो वह कैसे प्रपोज करेगा?
बंता : बहुत आसान... ...चूहा कहेगा-बिल्लो रानी , कहो तो अभी जान दे दूं।
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मुन्नाभाई और सर्किट नरक में पहुंचे। वहां यमदूत ने उनका स्वागत किया और नरक की सैर कराई। यमदूत ने बताया कि यहां तीन तरह के नरक-कक्ष है और उसे अपनी पसन्द का कक्ष चुनने की आजादी है।
पहला कक्ष आग की लपटों और गर्म हवाओं से इस कदर भरा हुआ था कि वहां सांस लेना भी दूभर था। मुन्नाभाई ने कहाः ओए सर्किट! यहां रहकर तो अपुन की हालत खराब हो जाएगी... चल कोई दूसरा रूम देखते हैं...
यमदूत उन्हें दूसरे नरक कक्ष में ले गया। यह कक्ष सैंकड़ों आदमियों से भरा हुआ था। वहां बेहद गर्मी थी और धुआं फैला हुआ था। चारों ओर चीखपुकार का माहौल था। मुन्नाभाई और सर्किट यह सब देखकर घबरा गए और उन्होंने यमदूत से कोई और कक्ष दिखाने की प्रार्थना की।
तीसरा और अंतिम कक्ष ऐसे लोगों से भरा हुआ था जो बस आराम कर रहे थे और कॉफी पी रहे थे। यहां अन्य दो कक्षों जैसी कष्टदायक कोई बात नहीं दिखी। मुन्नाभाई ने कहाः अबे सर्किट! यह रूम अपुन के हाथ से नहीं निकलना चाहिए... इस यमदूत को पटा, फटाफट इसी रूम का नंबर लगा लेते हैं!!
यमदूत ने दोनों उसी कक्ष में छोड़ा और चला गया। मुन्नाभाई और सर्किट ने एक-एक कॉफी ली और आराम से एक तरफ बैठ गए।
कुछ मिनटों बाद लाउडस्पीकर पर एक आवाज गूंजीः ब्रेक टाइम खत्म हुआ। अब फिर से दस हजार घूंसे खाने के लिये तैयार हो जाओ!
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जजः तुम दोनों का तलाक हो जाएगा लेकिन बच्चों का बंटवारा कैसे होगा?
संताः जज साहब क्या परेशानी है?
जजः तुम्हारे तीन बच्चे हैं तो कैसे बांटोगे?
संताः तो फिर ठीक है जज साहब हम अगले साल अपील करेंगे...
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संता बंता सेः मैं चाहता हूं कि जब मैं मरुं तो अपने दादजी की तरह शांति से मरुं
बंताः उनकी मौत कैसे हुई?
संताः उनकी गाड़ी का जब एक्सीडेंट हुआ सभी मुसाफिर जोर-जोर से चीख रहे थे लेकिन मेरे दादाजी शांत थे
बंताः तब तुम्हारे दादाजी क्या कर रहे थे?
संताः वह ड्राइविंग सीट पर बैठे सो रहे थे......
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बंताः यार संता एक बात बता मनमोहन सिंह हमेशा शाम को ही टहलने क्यों जाते हैं, सुबह क्यों नहीं?
संताः क्योंकि वह पीएम हैं, एएम नहीं.....
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संता : चूहे को अगर बिल्ली से प्यार हो जाएगा , तो वह कैसे प्रपोज करेगा?
बंता : बहुत आसान... ...चूहा कहेगा-बिल्लो रानी , कहो तो अभी जान दे दूं।
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मुन्नाभाई और सर्किट नरक में पहुंचे। वहां यमदूत ने उनका स्वागत किया और नरक की सैर कराई। यमदूत ने बताया कि यहां तीन तरह के नरक-कक्ष है और उसे अपनी पसन्द का कक्ष चुनने की आजादी है।
पहला कक्ष आग की लपटों और गर्म हवाओं से इस कदर भरा हुआ था कि वहां सांस लेना भी दूभर था। मुन्नाभाई ने कहाः ओए सर्किट! यहां रहकर तो अपुन की हालत खराब हो जाएगी... चल कोई दूसरा रूम देखते हैं...
यमदूत उन्हें दूसरे नरक कक्ष में ले गया। यह कक्ष सैंकड़ों आदमियों से भरा हुआ था। वहां बेहद गर्मी थी और धुआं फैला हुआ था। चारों ओर चीखपुकार का माहौल था। मुन्नाभाई और सर्किट यह सब देखकर घबरा गए और उन्होंने यमदूत से कोई और कक्ष दिखाने की प्रार्थना की।
तीसरा और अंतिम कक्ष ऐसे लोगों से भरा हुआ था जो बस आराम कर रहे थे और कॉफी पी रहे थे। यहां अन्य दो कक्षों जैसी कष्टदायक कोई बात नहीं दिखी। मुन्नाभाई ने कहाः अबे सर्किट! यह रूम अपुन के हाथ से नहीं निकलना चाहिए... इस यमदूत को पटा, फटाफट इसी रूम का नंबर लगा लेते हैं!!
यमदूत ने दोनों उसी कक्ष में छोड़ा और चला गया। मुन्नाभाई और सर्किट ने एक-एक कॉफी ली और आराम से एक तरफ बैठ गए।
कुछ मिनटों बाद लाउडस्पीकर पर एक आवाज गूंजीः ब्रेक टाइम खत्म हुआ। अब फिर से दस हजार घूंसे खाने के लिये तैयार हो जाओ!
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कुछ कुछ होता है ......
टीचर : तुम बड़े होकर क्या करोगे ?
संता : शादी
टीचर : नहीं मेरा मतलब है क्या बनोगे ?
संता : दुल्हा
टीचर : अरे मेरा मतलब है कि क्या हसिल करोगे?
संता : दुल्हन
टीचर : अरे नहीं, मैं जानना चाह रहा था कि मां-बाप के लिए क्या करोगे?
संता : बहू लाऊंगा
टीचर : बेवहकूफ तुम्हारे पापा तुम से क्या चाहते हैं?
संता : पोता
टीचर : ओफ हो, तुम्हारी जिंदगी का क्या मकसद है?
संता : हम दो हमारे दो
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संता बंता से- चलते चलते कहीं रूक जाता हूँ मैं... बैठे बैठे कहीं सो जाता हूँ मैं... क्या यही प्यार है... क्या यही प्यार है....
बंता- नहीं यार! डॉक्टर के पास जा तुझे कमजोरी आ गई है।
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पापा: बेटा, अगर ससुराल वाले स्कूटर दें, कार मांगना। दुकान दें, तो मकान मांगना और कुलर दें तो एसी मांगना। संता : पापा अगर वह लड़की दें तो क्या उसकी मां को मांग लूंगा?
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पत्नी ने अपने पति से कहा कि वह जुआ न खेले।
पतिः युधिष्ठिर भी तो जुआ खेलते थे, फिर तुम मुझे क्यों रोकती हो?
पत्नीः ठीक है, नहीं रोकूँगी लेकिन ये याद रखना कि द्रौपदी के भी पाँच पति थे...
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संता ने गर्लफ्रेंड को देख कर अर्ज कियातेरे स्माइल में क्या चमक है....तेरे स्माइल में क्या चमक है ....वो मुस्कुरा कर के बोलीमेरे टूथपेस्ट में नमक है।
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बंताः लंबी ज़िंदगी पाने के लिए क्या करना चाहिए?
संताः शादी कर ले
बंताः इससे ज़िंदगी लंबी हो जाएगी?
संताः नहीं, जीने की ख्वाहिश खत्म हो जाएगी.....
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संता: तुझे लड़की पटाने का सॉलिड आइडिया बताऊं।
बंता : हां, बता।
संता:रास्ते से गुजरती लड़की को पीछे से जाकर पकड़ो। अगर लड़की हंस गई , तो समझ लो वो फंस गई।
बंता : और अगर वो चिल्लाई तो।
संता: अरे यार फिर कह देना …दीदी डर गई , दीदी डर गई।
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संता : शादी
टीचर : नहीं मेरा मतलब है क्या बनोगे ?
संता : दुल्हा
टीचर : अरे मेरा मतलब है कि क्या हसिल करोगे?
संता : दुल्हन
टीचर : अरे नहीं, मैं जानना चाह रहा था कि मां-बाप के लिए क्या करोगे?
संता : बहू लाऊंगा
टीचर : बेवहकूफ तुम्हारे पापा तुम से क्या चाहते हैं?
संता : पोता
टीचर : ओफ हो, तुम्हारी जिंदगी का क्या मकसद है?
संता : हम दो हमारे दो
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संता बंता से- चलते चलते कहीं रूक जाता हूँ मैं... बैठे बैठे कहीं सो जाता हूँ मैं... क्या यही प्यार है... क्या यही प्यार है....
बंता- नहीं यार! डॉक्टर के पास जा तुझे कमजोरी आ गई है।
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पापा: बेटा, अगर ससुराल वाले स्कूटर दें, कार मांगना। दुकान दें, तो मकान मांगना और कुलर दें तो एसी मांगना। संता : पापा अगर वह लड़की दें तो क्या उसकी मां को मांग लूंगा?
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पत्नी ने अपने पति से कहा कि वह जुआ न खेले।
पतिः युधिष्ठिर भी तो जुआ खेलते थे, फिर तुम मुझे क्यों रोकती हो?
पत्नीः ठीक है, नहीं रोकूँगी लेकिन ये याद रखना कि द्रौपदी के भी पाँच पति थे...
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संता ने गर्लफ्रेंड को देख कर अर्ज कियातेरे स्माइल में क्या चमक है....तेरे स्माइल में क्या चमक है ....वो मुस्कुरा कर के बोलीमेरे टूथपेस्ट में नमक है।
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बंताः लंबी ज़िंदगी पाने के लिए क्या करना चाहिए?
संताः शादी कर ले
बंताः इससे ज़िंदगी लंबी हो जाएगी?
संताः नहीं, जीने की ख्वाहिश खत्म हो जाएगी.....
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संता: तुझे लड़की पटाने का सॉलिड आइडिया बताऊं।
बंता : हां, बता।
संता:रास्ते से गुजरती लड़की को पीछे से जाकर पकड़ो। अगर लड़की हंस गई , तो समझ लो वो फंस गई।
बंता : और अगर वो चिल्लाई तो।
संता: अरे यार फिर कह देना …दीदी डर गई , दीदी डर गई।
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Tuesday, September 14, 2010
My Thoughts...!!!
- Life: It is about the gift not the package it comes in.
- You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.
- I know what things are good: friendship and work and conversation. These I shall have.
- Life may have no meaning. Or even worse, it may have a meaning of which I disapprove.
- Life is not so bad if you have plenty of luck, a good physique, and not too much imagination.
- To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone and a funnybone.
- You must feel confident enough within yourself to follow your own dreams.
- There are times when you must take a few extra chances and create your own realities.
- Be strong enough to at least try to make your life better.
It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance in a relationship and find out you still care for that person.
My Thoughts...
- When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me."
- The purpose of life is a life of purpose.
- I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.
- Life is simple, it's just not easy.
- A life without cause is a life without effect.
- Life's not always fair. Sometimes you can get a splinter even sliding down a rainbow.
- I hope life isn't a big joke, because I don't get it.
- Life is a foreign language: all men mispronounce it.
- Yes, I will try to be. Because I believe that not being is arrogant.
- Life is the hyphen between matter and spirit.
- I say, if your knees aren't green by the end of the day, you ought to seriously re-examine your life.
- As we struggle to make sense of things, life looks on in repose.
- Life is a great big canvas, and you should throw all the paint on it you can.
- I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it's not the answer.
- My formula for living is quite simple. I get up in the morning and I go to bed at night. In between, I occupy myself as best I can.
Monday, September 13, 2010
10 Things I Wish I Had Never Believed
Success is 99% Failure - I Exp.
Founder of Honda Motor Company said – Success is 99% Failure.
What did he mean?
When I first read this quote I thought – what a pile of BS double talk. But as I grew, I understood consciously and intuitively what Mr. Honda meant.
To understand Mr. Honda, I turned my attention to my own life.
I’ve spent my entire life failing at important stuff…
• When I first walked, I fell
• When I spoke I stuttered
• When I wrote a d it looked like b
• When I wrote a b it looked like a d
• When I sprinted I puked
• When I rode a bike I crashed
• When I played football I fumbled
• When I was a student I failed other activities but I am Topper.
• My first girlfirend either dumped me or we nuts.
• When I ran for political office I lost – Thank God!
• When I started a dot com in 2008, I worked 90 hours a week for two years and never made a rupees.
• When I first drove, I totaled 4 cars
• When I first used Windows 95, I trashed the entire file system
• When I first administered data I deleted an entire customer database without a backup – and I lived to talk about it.
That’s just a few of my failures. Believe me, I have a lot more.
My failures used to haunt me. They used to inhibit me from trying again.
But today I believe…
The day you quit trying and concede to your demons is the day your soul dies.
What did he mean?
When I first read this quote I thought – what a pile of BS double talk. But as I grew, I understood consciously and intuitively what Mr. Honda meant.
To understand Mr. Honda, I turned my attention to my own life.
I’ve spent my entire life failing at important stuff…
• When I first walked, I fell
• When I spoke I stuttered
• When I wrote a d it looked like b
• When I wrote a b it looked like a d
• When I sprinted I puked
• When I rode a bike I crashed
• When I played football I fumbled
• When I was a student I failed other activities but I am Topper.
• My first girlfirend either dumped me or we nuts.
• When I ran for political office I lost – Thank God!
• When I started a dot com in 2008, I worked 90 hours a week for two years and never made a rupees.
• When I first drove, I totaled 4 cars
• When I first used Windows 95, I trashed the entire file system
• When I first administered data I deleted an entire customer database without a backup – and I lived to talk about it.
That’s just a few of my failures. Believe me, I have a lot more.
My failures used to haunt me. They used to inhibit me from trying again.
But today I believe…
The day you quit trying and concede to your demons is the day your soul dies.
The Secret Great Leaders Know About Emotion
I used to believe my emotions were a weakness, and I’m sharing this information with the hope you can avoid the painful lesson I had to learn.
Do you believe your emotions are weaknesses you must suppress to succeed? What if I told you that your emotions were not an obstacle to success but a critical ingredient in your success?
I believed my emotions were a weakness, and the results were ugly.
About two years ago, I read a couple of books that explained my problem and what to do about it. The first was Executive EQ and the second was Leadership: The Inner Side of Greatness.
Here are some of the secrets in these books:
Great leaders accept their feelings and allow themselves to feel their feelings fully. That’s right! They allow themselves to feel their fear in all its intensity. They don’t try to suppress it or step around it or deny it. They don’t fight it. They accept it and feel it. A great leader doesn’t believe something is wrong with him when he feels a particular feeling. Wow! What an eye opener! Tiger Woods feels fear too! He knows that denying his feelings leads to physical and emotional exhaustion. I never knew that. I thought I was a freak for feeling the things I felt.
Great leaders know the difference between conscious emotional action and impulsive emotional re-action. Some might call this emotional maturity. When children feel angry they may hit people or break things. This is an emotional re-action. Some of us don’t know how to stop re-acting impulsively to our emotions and it carries into adulthood. When we feel a particular way, we re-act negatively or we channel one emotion to a different emotion and re-act incongruently. For example – a man may feel that he cannot re-act to his sorrow, so he channels his sorrow into anger and re-acts violently instead. It is impulsive re-action most people think of when they imagine an emotional person.
Great leaders feel their emotion, name their emotions, and act on them. For example: A great warrior will feel her fear in battle, understand that she is afraid, and interpret it as a message to act with courage. A Native American friend once told me, “In my culture, we are taught to trust our feelings. We do not shun feelings. We understand they are messages from nature that we need to take action. Feelings are messages from the spirit world.”
Great leaders trust their intuition. Intuition is the art of knowing without reasoning. Great leaders know that intuition is the shortcut to making great decisions quickly. We can all access our intuition if we learn to listen to our hunches. As a child, I solved complex math problems correctly using only intuition, and the teacher punished me for cheating and told me what I was doing was impossible. I had no desire to write out pages of work to solve a problem that I already knew the answer to. After that, I gave up on math and my intuition. I learned the lesson my teacher was teaching. It took me almost thirty years to unlearn that lesson.
Great leaders broadcast positive emotions. Great leaders have learned to use their minds to feel and broadcast Love, Hope, Desire, Sex Appeal, Confidence, Joy, Trust, and Faith to other people. Watch the great speeches from MLK to Steve Jobs. How do they make you feel? Where do you think that comes from?
Great leaders do the seemingly impossible using imagination combined with positive emotion. They create a novel, a piece of artwork, a political movement, a military victory, an invention, or a great theory, by first imagining it in detail while feeling positive emotions like passion, love, and faith. Without intense focused emotions, there would be no world changing creations.
My Story
When I was child, people told me I was overly sensitive. Since the second grade, I believed I had an emotional birth defect that I had to overcome.
I’ve always felt that I was able to walk into a room and sense other people’s feelings. If someone was secretly angry, I could feel it. If someone was genuine, I could feel it. If someone held resentment or hate, I could feel it. If someone was full of love, I could feel that too. This whole situation seemed insane and voyeuristic. I don’t mean that I knew how other people felt; I mean that I actually felt their feelings. So if someone was talking to me while feeling afraid, I felt afraid too.
At some point I realized, that boys aren’t supposed to feel that way. I began to suppress and deny my emotions because I believed they were a weakness. So in order to control the re-actions which revealed my emotions, I suppressed and denied my sadness, fear, or any other emotion that could lead to a socially damaging re-action.
The results of this method of self-denial were devastating. I turned into an emotional black-hole, devoid of empathy, with all my denied emotions manifesting in destructive actions (substance abuse, criminal activity, violence) and psychiatric issues (depression and panic attacks). My wife once described me as “completely black and empty on the inside.”
My experience is an extreme example. But I believe most people suppress their emotions to some degree. Suppressing your emotions won’t solve your problems because emotions will always find a way to manifest. But there is a solution.
Your emotions are your strength, not your weakness. It just depends upon how you think about them.
To be great, learn to feel great.
Do you believe your emotions are weaknesses you must suppress to succeed? What if I told you that your emotions were not an obstacle to success but a critical ingredient in your success?
I believed my emotions were a weakness, and the results were ugly.
About two years ago, I read a couple of books that explained my problem and what to do about it. The first was Executive EQ and the second was Leadership: The Inner Side of Greatness.
Here are some of the secrets in these books:
Great leaders accept their feelings and allow themselves to feel their feelings fully. That’s right! They allow themselves to feel their fear in all its intensity. They don’t try to suppress it or step around it or deny it. They don’t fight it. They accept it and feel it. A great leader doesn’t believe something is wrong with him when he feels a particular feeling. Wow! What an eye opener! Tiger Woods feels fear too! He knows that denying his feelings leads to physical and emotional exhaustion. I never knew that. I thought I was a freak for feeling the things I felt.
Great leaders know the difference between conscious emotional action and impulsive emotional re-action. Some might call this emotional maturity. When children feel angry they may hit people or break things. This is an emotional re-action. Some of us don’t know how to stop re-acting impulsively to our emotions and it carries into adulthood. When we feel a particular way, we re-act negatively or we channel one emotion to a different emotion and re-act incongruently. For example – a man may feel that he cannot re-act to his sorrow, so he channels his sorrow into anger and re-acts violently instead. It is impulsive re-action most people think of when they imagine an emotional person.
Great leaders feel their emotion, name their emotions, and act on them. For example: A great warrior will feel her fear in battle, understand that she is afraid, and interpret it as a message to act with courage. A Native American friend once told me, “In my culture, we are taught to trust our feelings. We do not shun feelings. We understand they are messages from nature that we need to take action. Feelings are messages from the spirit world.”
Great leaders trust their intuition. Intuition is the art of knowing without reasoning. Great leaders know that intuition is the shortcut to making great decisions quickly. We can all access our intuition if we learn to listen to our hunches. As a child, I solved complex math problems correctly using only intuition, and the teacher punished me for cheating and told me what I was doing was impossible. I had no desire to write out pages of work to solve a problem that I already knew the answer to. After that, I gave up on math and my intuition. I learned the lesson my teacher was teaching. It took me almost thirty years to unlearn that lesson.
Great leaders broadcast positive emotions. Great leaders have learned to use their minds to feel and broadcast Love, Hope, Desire, Sex Appeal, Confidence, Joy, Trust, and Faith to other people. Watch the great speeches from MLK to Steve Jobs. How do they make you feel? Where do you think that comes from?
Great leaders do the seemingly impossible using imagination combined with positive emotion. They create a novel, a piece of artwork, a political movement, a military victory, an invention, or a great theory, by first imagining it in detail while feeling positive emotions like passion, love, and faith. Without intense focused emotions, there would be no world changing creations.
My Story
When I was child, people told me I was overly sensitive. Since the second grade, I believed I had an emotional birth defect that I had to overcome.
I’ve always felt that I was able to walk into a room and sense other people’s feelings. If someone was secretly angry, I could feel it. If someone was genuine, I could feel it. If someone held resentment or hate, I could feel it. If someone was full of love, I could feel that too. This whole situation seemed insane and voyeuristic. I don’t mean that I knew how other people felt; I mean that I actually felt their feelings. So if someone was talking to me while feeling afraid, I felt afraid too.
At some point I realized, that boys aren’t supposed to feel that way. I began to suppress and deny my emotions because I believed they were a weakness. So in order to control the re-actions which revealed my emotions, I suppressed and denied my sadness, fear, or any other emotion that could lead to a socially damaging re-action.
The results of this method of self-denial were devastating. I turned into an emotional black-hole, devoid of empathy, with all my denied emotions manifesting in destructive actions (substance abuse, criminal activity, violence) and psychiatric issues (depression and panic attacks). My wife once described me as “completely black and empty on the inside.”
My experience is an extreme example. But I believe most people suppress their emotions to some degree. Suppressing your emotions won’t solve your problems because emotions will always find a way to manifest. But there is a solution.
Your emotions are your strength, not your weakness. It just depends upon how you think about them.
To be great, learn to feel great.
Why Getting a Good Job isn’t the Best Way to Earn Money
There is a better way to make money. I’m not telling you to quit your job and become an anarchist. And I am not saying you’re stupid because you have a job. I have a job. So you ask, what did you mean?
A job is a way to earn money. It’s how most people earn money. It’s what I do today. It just isn’t the best way to earn money. I wish I would have known this twenty-five years ago. I wish my parents had taught me this, I wish the schools had taught me this. In a minute, I’ll share the secret with you.
I’ve had one job or another for 24 years. I’ve made all my money working for someone else.
I’ve had a job…
- Picking Pumpkins
- Peeling Shrimp – worst thing ever!
- Driving a Truck
- Maintaining Networks
- Developing Software
- Managing Customer Service
I manage a team of software developers that enhance and maintain our Oracle e-business Suite. For me it is the perfect job, at the perfect company, with the perfect people. Like you, I worked hard to get where I am. I can’t imagine a job being much better. I don’t complain about my job and I have few worries about money.
So you’re probably thinking – so why do you wish you never believed a job was the best way to earn money?
Because If I knew ten or twenty years ago what I know now, I would have created far more value for myself and everybody else.
The best way to earn money is to build assets. When I say assets, I’m not talking about your home, an IRA, or a 401K. Let me explain.
Until recently, I believed entrepreneurship was the same as working for someone else, except with greater income potential. And instead of working for your boss, you work for your customer. For some entrepreneurs this is true, but for smart ones it isn’t true.
I read Rich Dad/Poor Dad and The E-Myth Revisited and it hit me…
Duh!
I should be building assets for my family. I wish I had spent the last twenty-five years building assets for myself instead of trading my time for money while building assets for someone else.
So this might be your next question – If you aren’t talking about my home, IRA, or a 401K, what assets are you talking about?
Real Estate – Rental Income
Twenty-Five years ago, a guy in my neighborhood had this figured out. He was a blue-collar union guy that worked a printing press for the Star Tribune. He saved his money over a decade and purchased several apartment buildings. The income from the rental property allowed him to quit his job and he used the time he saved to build a construction company. He told me once – do what you love and never work a day in your life. I didn’t get it then; I thought he was nuts. I get it now.
Businesses that are systems
If your business doesn’t run without you, it is a job. To be free, you need to own a business that generates income whether you are there or not. I know another guy that started a franchise restaurant when he was about twenty. He built the business up and trained good managers, which allowed him to step away. The restaurant produced income that paid his bills while he pursued other opportunities. He built a second restaurant and stepped away. Built a third restaurant and stepped away. Now he owns multiple restaurants that produce income – without him working at any of them – so he can spend his time fishing and golfing. Another example of this type of asset is Steve Pavlina’s website. Some people commented that Steve is telling everyone to quit their jobs and start blogging. That’s not what Steve is saying. Steve is telling you to be creative and build yourself an asset that works for you so you have time to pursue new opportunities. Blogging is just one of infinite ways you could do this. The only limit is your imagination.
Intellectual Property
When you create intellectual property, you only work on the initial creation. Once it’s finished it can generate income for many generations. For example – Let’s say you wrote a book, and the book became popular, your family could receive income from it for several generations after you were dead. You’re making money from the grave!
A few types of intellectual property:
- Books
- Software
- Audio
- Music
- Video
- Scripts
- Art
- Patents
There are probably many other asset categories too.
So, since I wish I had never believed that getting a good job is the best way to earn money, I am not going to teach my sons this adage – get a good education so you can get a good job.
I’m going to teach my children this:
If you learn how to create value for other people – doing what you love – you’ll never have to get a job.
Money is the root of all evil........!!!
First – I know this is not the actual quote. But I believed the misquote and internalized it. I am not alone. The words people choose indicate they have internalized a similar belief. The phrase I hear the most is ‘filthy rich’. Politicians use language that leads me to believe they understand millions of people have internalized this belief too. When a politician says that she is going to “fight for you the working family that has no voice”, I cringe. I’ve been there and lived working class life. It’s irresponsible to exploit people’s envy and misguided belief that they are powerless and dependent. We are all powerful and independent! Everyone of us! I wish a politician would say this instead – You are powerful; every one of you. Stop looking outside of yourself for money and power. Stop waiting for something or someone to come along by chance and bestow money and power upon you. You already have money and power; it is inside of you. You just need to release it into the world. Don’t look to me to do that. I can’t do it for you. Only you can do it for yourself. – I’d vote for that politician.
To give you an understanding of how I acquired the belief that money was evil, I need to give you some context. I spent my teenage years in Bloomington MN, the largest suburb of the Twin Cities. It was and still is an economically diverse city.
Today I reject most social labels, but for the sake of illustration and history, I will use these generalized social classes:
• Poor
• Working Class
• Middle Class
• Rich
In my formative years, I viewed the world through this social lens. I didn’t understand it at the time. But looking back, I can clearly understand my myopic view.
Poor people lived in welfare projects like this:
Or apartments like this:
Working class people lived in houses like this:
Middle class people lived in houses like this:
Rich people lived in houses like this:
I know all of this is relative, and we were all rich by worldwide standards. All my ‘poor’ friends had three TVs, cable television, and a fridge full of Mountain Dew and Budweiser. But that’s not my point. My point is the above social construct was embedded in my sub-conscious and I perceived clear boundaries and differences.
I was working class. My family may argue that we were middle class, but based on where and how we lived, I’d say we were working class and I identified with other working class kids. My wife said I could have titled the last post (10 Things I Wish I had Never Believed) – The 10 Great Working Class Lies. But I thought the beliefs transcended basic class constructs. But essentially, she was right.
Many adults and kids in my life used terms like these:
• He’s filthy rich
• That house is a waste of space, can you imagine the heat bill
• He’s got money coming out his ass
• Whadda ya think money grows on trees
• He’s got money to burn
• It’s easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to get to heaven (I know… I know… It’s misquoted…chill out)
• How much money does a person need?
• He could use twenty dollar bills for toilet paper
• Republicans are for the rich
• Democrats look out for the workin’ man
• What a bunch of Fat Cats
• F***ing cake-eaters
• There so rich they think their S**t don’t stink
My favorite was, “I wouldn’t say they’re rich, I’d say they’re comfortable.” You could use this one to acknowledge someone was doing well financialy without applying the pejorative term – rich.
I could probably think of a lot more, but I’ll spare you. In working class culture, if you didn’t work hard for your money, people implied something was wrong with you. If you had great wealth, you were either a spoiled brat or a crook. It would have been shameful, embarrassing, and insulting to be called rich. Right now as I write this, I can feel the shame associated with the idea of being rich.
Another thing adults told us – America’s going downhill, you are going to be the first generation that didn’t have it better than your parents. How depressing is that? That’s like saying – you don’t have a chance so don’t be too disappointed when you fail. I heard this repeated at school, on TV, at church, and at home.
Now imagine it’s 1982. Half your friend’s dads are unemployed (national unemployment is at 10% and interest rates are 16%). The country is at the end of the first wave of mass de-industrialization. Your family is pinching every penny, and it’s the first quarter of 8th grade…
Setting – 1980s public school science classroom…
They paired us up in science class alphabetically by last name, so my science partner was Amy Olson. After a month, I noticed that Amy hadn’t worn the same clothes twice. So I asked her, “What’s up Amy? You haven’t worn the same clothes all year. How big’s your wardrobe?”
Amy said, “Oh, I don’t have a wardrobe, I get new clothes everyday.”
In disbelief I said, “What!? You get new clothes everyday? Who the hell buys all your clothes?”
Amy replied, “My mom’s personal shopper.”
I said, “You gotta be freaking kidding me. A personal shopper!? What do you do with your clothes once you’ve worn them once?”
Amy said, “We give ‘em to charity.”
At that point, I hated her with a deep gut felt hatred. I remember the moment in HD and 5.1 surround. I can feel twinges of hate and disgust as I write this and it scares me. I asked the teacher to move me and I never spoke to Amy again. So Amy, if you ever read this, I’m sorry I hated you and I no longer hate you. Please forgive me.
A few years later another kid got a new Porsche 911 for his 16th birthday. Working class students ran keys down the sides of the car in the high school parking lot until he quit driving it to school.
You’re probably thinking – what were kids that rich doing in public school? In Minnesota, twenty-five years ago, most of the local private schools had the reputation for taking the public school rejects. If public school expelled you, you’d land in Catholic School. It’s the opposite today.
This was life for me twenty-five years ago. I can only imagine what it is like for kids today.
Like many of those around me, I suffered from Zero-Sum thinking. The more money one person has the less someone else has. Zero-Sum thinking creates a hostile social environment and a feeling of helplessness. Zero-Sum may be true in a Kleptocracy but it isn’t true in a free-market. In a free-market, your creations grow the economic pie and everyone benefits.
Over the years, this internalized belief has manifested different ways. I found it impossible to be happy for someone else when he succeeded in making money. I always thought he sold-out, did something crooked, or just got lucky. But the worst part was, I believed other peoples successes were at my expense. The belief stopped me from doing anything creative. Why be creative? It might lead to wealth, which is evil. So I sat around miserable, driving a delivery truck, and wondering why the world kept changing and I was still the same.
My awakening was slow. It took years of work to drop the belief. Sometimes I still feel the anger, hate, and insecurity when I see someone else succeed. But today, I usually recognize those feelings, acknowledge them, and consciously tell myself that someone else’s success is an opportunity to share in their joy and learn how they did it.
Today I frequently see the belief manifested in this question:
How much money does a person need anyway?
It’s a fallacious question. In Minnesota, you don’t personally need any money. I could quit my job, leave my family, and stay at the Dorothy Day Center in downtown St. Paul. The charity would feed and clothe me and give me shelter at night. If they didn’t do it, the government would. Since you don’t need any money, what is a better question to ask yourself?
How about this…
What do I want to accomplish with my life and how much money will it take?
Aim, think, and plan for that number, even if it’s a billion dollars.
Believing money was evil led me to act horrible and feel terrible. I believe millions of people still hold this belief today and it binds them in the chains of servitude and criminality. The envy this belief creates results in hatred, anger, crime, and a host of financial and social problems.
By hating the wealthy, I thought I was fighting evil, but I wasn’t – I became evil.
To give you an understanding of how I acquired the belief that money was evil, I need to give you some context. I spent my teenage years in Bloomington MN, the largest suburb of the Twin Cities. It was and still is an economically diverse city.
Today I reject most social labels, but for the sake of illustration and history, I will use these generalized social classes:
• Poor
• Working Class
• Middle Class
• Rich
In my formative years, I viewed the world through this social lens. I didn’t understand it at the time. But looking back, I can clearly understand my myopic view.
Poor people lived in welfare projects like this:
Or apartments like this:
Working class people lived in houses like this:
Middle class people lived in houses like this:
Rich people lived in houses like this:
I know all of this is relative, and we were all rich by worldwide standards. All my ‘poor’ friends had three TVs, cable television, and a fridge full of Mountain Dew and Budweiser. But that’s not my point. My point is the above social construct was embedded in my sub-conscious and I perceived clear boundaries and differences.
I was working class. My family may argue that we were middle class, but based on where and how we lived, I’d say we were working class and I identified with other working class kids. My wife said I could have titled the last post (10 Things I Wish I had Never Believed) – The 10 Great Working Class Lies. But I thought the beliefs transcended basic class constructs. But essentially, she was right.
Many adults and kids in my life used terms like these:
• He’s filthy rich
• That house is a waste of space, can you imagine the heat bill
• He’s got money coming out his ass
• Whadda ya think money grows on trees
• He’s got money to burn
• It’s easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to get to heaven (I know… I know… It’s misquoted…chill out)
• How much money does a person need?
• He could use twenty dollar bills for toilet paper
• Republicans are for the rich
• Democrats look out for the workin’ man
• What a bunch of Fat Cats
• F***ing cake-eaters
• There so rich they think their S**t don’t stink
My favorite was, “I wouldn’t say they’re rich, I’d say they’re comfortable.” You could use this one to acknowledge someone was doing well financialy without applying the pejorative term – rich.
I could probably think of a lot more, but I’ll spare you. In working class culture, if you didn’t work hard for your money, people implied something was wrong with you. If you had great wealth, you were either a spoiled brat or a crook. It would have been shameful, embarrassing, and insulting to be called rich. Right now as I write this, I can feel the shame associated with the idea of being rich.
Another thing adults told us – America’s going downhill, you are going to be the first generation that didn’t have it better than your parents. How depressing is that? That’s like saying – you don’t have a chance so don’t be too disappointed when you fail. I heard this repeated at school, on TV, at church, and at home.
Now imagine it’s 1982. Half your friend’s dads are unemployed (national unemployment is at 10% and interest rates are 16%). The country is at the end of the first wave of mass de-industrialization. Your family is pinching every penny, and it’s the first quarter of 8th grade…
Setting – 1980s public school science classroom…
They paired us up in science class alphabetically by last name, so my science partner was Amy Olson. After a month, I noticed that Amy hadn’t worn the same clothes twice. So I asked her, “What’s up Amy? You haven’t worn the same clothes all year. How big’s your wardrobe?”
Amy said, “Oh, I don’t have a wardrobe, I get new clothes everyday.”
In disbelief I said, “What!? You get new clothes everyday? Who the hell buys all your clothes?”
Amy replied, “My mom’s personal shopper.”
I said, “You gotta be freaking kidding me. A personal shopper!? What do you do with your clothes once you’ve worn them once?”
Amy said, “We give ‘em to charity.”
At that point, I hated her with a deep gut felt hatred. I remember the moment in HD and 5.1 surround. I can feel twinges of hate and disgust as I write this and it scares me. I asked the teacher to move me and I never spoke to Amy again. So Amy, if you ever read this, I’m sorry I hated you and I no longer hate you. Please forgive me.
A few years later another kid got a new Porsche 911 for his 16th birthday. Working class students ran keys down the sides of the car in the high school parking lot until he quit driving it to school.
You’re probably thinking – what were kids that rich doing in public school? In Minnesota, twenty-five years ago, most of the local private schools had the reputation for taking the public school rejects. If public school expelled you, you’d land in Catholic School. It’s the opposite today.
This was life for me twenty-five years ago. I can only imagine what it is like for kids today.
Like many of those around me, I suffered from Zero-Sum thinking. The more money one person has the less someone else has. Zero-Sum thinking creates a hostile social environment and a feeling of helplessness. Zero-Sum may be true in a Kleptocracy but it isn’t true in a free-market. In a free-market, your creations grow the economic pie and everyone benefits.
Over the years, this internalized belief has manifested different ways. I found it impossible to be happy for someone else when he succeeded in making money. I always thought he sold-out, did something crooked, or just got lucky. But the worst part was, I believed other peoples successes were at my expense. The belief stopped me from doing anything creative. Why be creative? It might lead to wealth, which is evil. So I sat around miserable, driving a delivery truck, and wondering why the world kept changing and I was still the same.
My awakening was slow. It took years of work to drop the belief. Sometimes I still feel the anger, hate, and insecurity when I see someone else succeed. But today, I usually recognize those feelings, acknowledge them, and consciously tell myself that someone else’s success is an opportunity to share in their joy and learn how they did it.
Today I frequently see the belief manifested in this question:
How much money does a person need anyway?
It’s a fallacious question. In Minnesota, you don’t personally need any money. I could quit my job, leave my family, and stay at the Dorothy Day Center in downtown St. Paul. The charity would feed and clothe me and give me shelter at night. If they didn’t do it, the government would. Since you don’t need any money, what is a better question to ask yourself?
How about this…
What do I want to accomplish with my life and how much money will it take?
Aim, think, and plan for that number, even if it’s a billion dollars.
Believing money was evil led me to act horrible and feel terrible. I believe millions of people still hold this belief today and it binds them in the chains of servitude and criminality. The envy this belief creates results in hatred, anger, crime, and a host of financial and social problems.
By hating the wealthy, I thought I was fighting evil, but I wasn’t – I became evil.
10 Things I Wish I Had Never Believed
10 Things I Wish I Had Never Believed
- Money is the root of all evil *
Money isn’t good or evil. It’s a tool like a hammer or a saw. You can create with it or destroy with it. People use it to build infrastructure, to build research facilities, to find cleaner sources of energy, and to create timeless art and literature. If you use your money to create value for yourself and others, your money will grow – and you will have all the money you’ll ever need. However, if you hoard money selfishly or spend it frivolously, you will never have enough. Don’t you think you could contribute more to society, the world, and other people if you had great wealth? So what’s wrong with intending to be wealthy? Do you believe you have the capacity to create value in other people’s lives? Those that think and act create wealth, so if you intend to become wealthy, don’t wait around for a government grant or the winning lotto numbers, get out there and start creating value for other people today.
- Getting a good job is the best way to earn money
Ask any entrepreneur if she’d like to quit and get a job. Then ask most people with a job if they’d like to quit and work for themselves. Most wealthy people will tell you a job is the worst way to make money.
- Emotional people are weak, vulnerable, and easily manipulated
It’s the exact opposite. Strong emotions are a source of strength and power. The stronger your emotions and the better your ability to focus your emotion, the more creative and powerful you are. Denying your emotions creates weakness and vulnerability.
- Admitting a mistake is a sign of weakness
If you aren’t making mistakes you aren’t learning anything. Fearing mistakes is the real weakness. Denying your mistakes, repeating them, and expecting different results is insane.
- You can’t be successful without a college degree
This one was drilled into my head for years and I believed it. The results of this belief were devastating. I didn’t earn a decent living until I was able to squash the belief.85%76% of Americans do not have a degree. I want to be very clear about this – I know I am on dangerous ground – so here goes – All of you with college educations are valuable and you have tremendous ability to create value in the world. This is not a criticism of your achievements. But I also must say – if you are one of the85%76% that do not have a degree, you are equally valuable and you are not inferior. You have equal potential to create value in the world, even if you never get a degree. People with and without degrees create amazing results everyday. If you hate flipping burgers or ringing orders at Wal-Mart don’t continue just because our culture tells you it’s your lot in life. Don’t listen to the voice in your head that tells you what you can’t do. Tell it to shut-up. Then start to visualize what you desire to be and you will slowly become what you visualize.
- Your doctor is the best source of medical or psychiatric information
Medical information is expanding so rapidly doctors are increasingly using Google to diagnose patients. According to studies, 30% of patients are misdiagnosed and treated for a condition they do not have. Obviously, if you have a medical or psychiatric problem you should see a doctor, but question what they tell you. Don’t accept it on blind faith. Use your critical thinking. Ask difficult questions. Many people are afraid to question their doctor. Don’t be afraid! I believe questioning my doctor saved my life (I plan to do a post on that experience). Do research online about your condition and you may find that you know more about the condition than your doctor. If that happens, it may be time to find a new doctor. Remember there is nothing special or magical about doctors, they’re people just like you and me. Many of them are extremely busy, and they make mistakes – lots of mistakes. So be your own advocate. See your doctor, but do your own research in the library and online. And if you need to make a big medical decision, get a second, third, or fourth opinion. Your health is in your hands. You make the final decision.
- School is the best place for kids to learn
It’s probably the worst place for kids to learn. I wrote this in my last blog post:Bob Proctor said that the problem with education is that it teaches us what to think, not how to think. Bob is wrong. It’s much worse than that. Our schools teach us to think destructive thoughts, which produce negative results in our lives and in the world. I know this sounds crazy and defies conventional wisdom, but it isn’t an attack on teachers or intellectuals. They are victims of the same monolithic government system as the students. Most teachers know intuitively how screwed up the system is and they know they are powerless to change it. So instead of explaining my position, I’ll let the New York State Teacher of the Year John Taylor Gatto make the argument in his essay The Seven Lesson School Teacher and his interview in Fast CompanyRead my follow up: How the Public School System Crushes Souls
- Personal Development or Self-Help is a left-wing hippy thing
You may have a preconceived notion about Self-Help, but if you look closely I think you’ll find it is an inaccurate stereotype. When some people think of a ‘hippy’, they think of a bunch of scruffy unshaven kids in tie-dye shirts tripping on acid at a Grateful Dead show. When they think of ‘left-wing’, they think of socialism, communism, and atheism. All the Personal Development gurus I’ve seen are clean cut, positive thinking, deeply spiritual, entrepreneurs awash in wealth. Hardly a bunch of scruffy, atheistic, drug abusing, socialists. I highly recommend a Personal Development program regardless of your political or religious beliefs. My program has created amazing positive results. - I should ignore my feelings and make decisions with hard reason and logic
This is a lie I used to tell myself. You buy the house you buy because of how it makes you feel. You bought the car you drive because of the way it makes you feel. You eat the food you eat because of the way it makes you feel. You choose the relationships you have because of the way you feel. You choose a career because of how it makes you feel. There is no such thing as an emotionless rational decision. All good marketers and sales people know this. Accept the role your feelings play in decision-making. So if you are getting lousy results in your life, it’s probably because of the decisions you are making. You can only change the way you make decisions by changing the way you feel. Hard reason won’t change anything. Trying to plan your life with hard reason and logic results in inertia.
- That I Should Put Political Opinions on This List
Big mistake on my part. See #4. I used to have a political opinion as #10 and it tainted this list. This isn’t a political blog. My goal is to help everybody, regardless of political opinions. I apologize to anyone I alienated. I’ll view it as an opportunity to learn.Why People Believe Money is the Root of all Evil
Sunday, September 5, 2010
विचारांची कहाणी .. मनोजच्या जुबानी...
विचारांची कहाणी .. मनोजच्या जुबानी...
- मानसाच मन नुसत आभाळासारख मोठ असून चालत नाही, तर माणसापाशी पैसा असला, तरच तो मना सारख दुसर्याच भल करू शकतो.
- या जगात कुणी कुणाचं दु:ख वाटून घेत नाही . आपल्या वाट्याला येईल ते मुकाट्यान सोसण एवडच जास्तीत जास्त माणसाच्या हाती असत.
- सत्यसुष्टीत उतरू न शकणाऱ्या स्वप्नाचा ध्यास माणसानं घेतला, तर त्याचा सुंगध हळू हळू विरून जातो.. आणि काटे मात्र दीर्घकाळ मनाला टोचीत राहतात.
- माणसाला जगायला माणसांचाच समाज हवा आणि जसा समाज सुरळीत चालायला काही जीवनमूल्य अवश्य हवीत., त्यांच्यावरली उत्कट श्रद्धया हीच मानवाची आत्मिक शक्ती., दिलेल्या शब्द पाळण्याचं बंधन माणसानं स्वीकारायलाच हव ती त्याची प्रकुती नसेल पण संस्कृती म्हणून हि गोष्ट त्यान स्वीकारयालाच हवी.
- माणूस शेवटी जगतो तो दुसर्याच्या माणसांच्या सहकार्यान, तो प्रफुल्लीत होतो , तो दुसर्या माणसांच्या सहवासात, सहजीवन हा मानवी जीवनाचा मुख्य आधार आहे .
- मनी नव्हती कशाची चिंता | आनंद अखंडित होता | जे ब्रम्ह काय ते मायबाप हि जोडी | खेळांत काय ती गोडी |
- स्वत: ची सुख सोडून या जगात दुसर्यासाठी काही दु:ख भोगावी लागतात., आनंद- हसतमुखान अशा दु:खाना सामोर जाव लागत.
- मानसाच दु:ख शेवटी माणूसच हलक करू शकतो
- सदगुनांच्या पर्वताची चढण नेहमीच बिकट असते, पण दुर्गुणांच्या उतरणीवरून गडगडत खाली येण फार सोप असत.
- नशिबात असावे लागत नाही तर आपण ते आणावे लागते, व ते आपल्याच हातात आहे.. हेच खरे .
- You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win.
- ---$$$$$ मनोज गोबे .$$$$$$$$----!!!!
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